The Esquire Guide to Sex: Positions, Tips and How-To Advice

Hey, it’s okay to ask. Whether you’re new or looking for creative ways to spice things up with your partner (or partners), we’ve put together a collection of the best positions, tips, and expert advice, from foreplay to how long you should last in the bedroom. Take notes; your better sex life begins now.1. How to Last Longer in BedMaintaining control in the bedroom all starts with breathing. Here’s a 4-step guide to build stamina and fall into a natural, longer rhythm.2. The Key to Better Sex Is All in Your BreathingThis might come off as hippy or holistic, butsex is about feeling good, and taking control of your breath is the most direct way to get there. Here are three techniques to master mindful, healing breaths.3. A Workout Plan for a Better Sex LifeIf you feel stressed out, weak, and lethargic in the bedroom, it will show. Here’s how to tailor a workout specifically for your sex life.4. 11 Ways to Have Sex Better, According to ScienceYou can try all the positions you want, or you can call up the world’s foremost sex doctors and ask them for their one surefire trick in the bedroom. That makes the positions even better.5. 8 of the Most Expensive Sex Toys Money Can BuyMake sure you’re up-to-speed on the most luxurious adult toys you can enjoy together.How much is your next orgasm worth?RELATED STORY6. 11 Things Women Want from a Man—Physically SpeakingLisa Taddeo has a few suggestions on whata man is expected to do.7. The Average Sex Time Is Not as Long as You’d ThinkHere are some scientific guidelines on whatwe should be shooting for. (Thank you, doctors.)8. The Yab-Yum PositionStart out facing each other in the Yab-Yum position, which is you cross-legged and her sitting in your lap facing you, with our foreheads touching. Then, synchronize yourbreathing. Oh, and there’s more.9. The Tea-Bagging PositionYes, it’s a position too. Finally, we clear up the difference between “shrimping” and “tea-bagging.” It’s about time.10. Shower Sex—the Semi-Successful WayThe sexually wise will tell you that cold, hard, wet locations like showers, pools, andBuffalo, New York, are just about the worst places to have sex. Still, there’s hope.11. How to Receive Oral SexEtiquette is important.RELATED STORY12. How to Spice Up ForeplayThe best way to spice up your sex life, according to people who think about your sex life, is to simply start your seduction earlier in the day.13. The Butterfly PositionThe “cul-de-sac” is the new G-spot. Here’s how to find it.14. Why You Should Try Watching Porn TogetherWatching porn with a partner can be weird. It can also be a relationship builder—a weird relationship builder.15. A Definitive Ranking of Every Single Wayto Have SexWell, almost every way.16. 5 Yoga Positions to Help Your Sex LifeThe key to better sex—and longer erections and doubled testosterone—is all in your breathing.17. 8 Reasons Why Having Lots of Sex Is Good for YouYou have no excuse not to make an active—and satisfying—sex life a priority